A 25-year friendship has been put to the test when a friend’s long-term boyfriend, who is unemployed and financially dependent on his partner, becomes increasingly draining. The friend has repeatedly bailed out her partner, covering financial burdens such as childcare costs. However, this support has come with an emotional price, including neglect of one’s own physical and mental well-being.
After helping her friend several times, the writer has reached their limit and refuses to continue subsidizing her partner’s lifestyle. The friend is now hurt and feels “used.” To address the situation, the writer suggests having a direct conversation with Celia about setting boundaries and ending financial support.
Meanwhile, a tennis instructor who was furloughed during the pandemic was denied a free membership as a gift for their years of service. Despite repeated requests, the answer remains “no.” The instructor advises against continuing to ask for the membership, suggesting that it may be time to consult with an attorney about how they were treated by their former employer.
Source: https://eu.detroitnews.com/story/life/advice/2024/12/26/dear-abby-friends-romance-sits-on-a-foundation-of-bad-choicesmain-headline/77199274007