Gratitude is a virtue, but it can also become a vice when it’s expressed insincerely, used to control others, or ignored painful feelings. Researchers say that performative gratitude, where we thank others only for social gain, can be problematic. It’s the opposite of genuine appreciation and can lead to feelings of resentment. Similarly, weaponized gratitude, where threats are made in exchange for loyalty, also has dark roots.
The concept of toxic positivity may seem appealing but dismissing painful emotions can have negative consequences. In extreme cases, grateful individuals may overlook real pain or be pressured into being overly positive. Instead of empathy and compassion, we should focus on validating someone’s feelings while offering support. Corrupted gratitude, where doing good for others leads to violating moral norms, also poses a risk.
The key to wise gratitude is discernment – expressing thanks the right way, for the right reasons. When practiced with integrity, gratitude can make us more humble and compassionate individuals. However, it’s essential to recognize when our gratitude might be misguided or harming others. By acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of gratitude, we can cultivate a healthier, more balanced approach to appreciating those who help us.
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Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gratefully/202511/rogue-gratitude-when-thankfulness-becomes-a-vice