The concept of adulthood has undergone significant changes over the past few decades. A new study by the US Census Bureau reveals that the traditional milestones of adulthood, such as marriage, having children, and homeownership, are no longer the standard. Instead, young adults are prioritizing economic security, education, and independence.
The data shows that in 2024, only about 28% of young adults have reached all five milestones: living on their own, being in the labor force, getting married, having children, and finishing education. The most common pattern now is living independently and working full-time, but not necessarily marrying or parenting.
This shift has significant implications for parents, families, and mentors who are concerned about their young adults’ progress towards adulthood. However, with a better understanding of these trends, they can provide practical support to help them build skills, find opportunities, and maintain connections that will enable them to thrive in life.
Here are seven key takeaways from the study:
1. Build strong relationships: Strong connections with caring adults protect mental health and help young people handle transitions such as college, first jobs, and new housing.
2. Coach for independence: Offer structure and encouragement while practicing executive-function skills like budgeting, planning, and self-control.
3. Normalize starter steps: Milestones are often reached in stages, so praise the step, not just the finish line, to reduce shame and keep momentum going.
4. Open doors: Introduce your young adult to people who matter in their industry or field, as this can lead to better job prospects and financial stability.
5. Talk about money early and often: Help your young adult build a basic budget, check their credit report, and compare rent-to-income ratios to develop confidence and financial stability.
6. Respect different timelines: Lower marriage rates in the early and late 20s don’t mean “never.” Many catch up later, and plenty thrive on flexible timelines.
7. Watch well-being: Notice changes in sleep, mood, or motivation and offer help finding a counselor or support group to maintain solid mental health.
By understanding these trends and providing practical support, parents, mentors, and neighbors can empower young adults to re-sequence their path to adulthood and thrive in life.
Source: https://www.timesfreepress.com/news/2025/aug/23/first-things-first-key-adult-milestones-are-not